Read and reviewed by: Elizabeth M. (www.davidandelizabethadopt.blogspot.com)
Title of Book: Conquering Infertility”
Author: __Dr. Alice Domar, PhD, & Alice Lesch Kelly
Publisher: Penguin Books
Year of Publication: 2002
Number of pages: 280
Main topics presented: depression, infertility, mind/body techniques, stress, relationships
Conquering Infertility has been the most helpful book I’ve read so far on the topic of infertility. Even though the book does not offer advice on how to help you actually get pregnant, it is full of ways to help you cope and live as happily as possible while dealing with infertility. Dr. Alice Domar, PhD, is the Executive Director of the Domar Center for Mind/Body Health and the director of Mind/Body Services at Boston IVF, so her perspective comes from her years of working with clients going through infertility and fertility procedures. The book is co-authored by Alice Lesch Kelly. It is written in a very factual tone with the personal stories of many of her clients woven throughout.
If nothing else, Conquering Infertility was extremely helping in confirming that everything I’ve been thinking and feeling through this process is completely normal! She covers just about every frustrating facet, from the stress of hearing about and living with pregnant/fertile women, the difficulties it brings to a marriage, friends and family relationships, spiritual questioning and even the financial pressure it brings. The most helpful chapter of all for me was Chapter 2, “A Toolbox Full of Coping Skills,” where she describes numerous ways to use mind/body techniques to deal the pressure, depression and anxiety that often accompany infertility. I immediately began implementing tools such as mini-relaxations, mindfulness and cognitive restructuring techniques with much personal success. My only complaint would be the author’s discouragement of pursuing alternative healing routes and emphasis on traditional fertility treatments as the main pathway to overcoming infertility. However, this was a minimal problem for me since, again, her focus in on the mental and emotional aspects of infertility.
I would recommend this book to anyone dealing with any part of the infertility process, but especially for those currently going through treatment. I would give it 5 stars because of the great deal of advice and practical tips that can help make living with infertility much more manageable.